The sacrament of marriage is a visible sign of God’s love for the Church. When a man and a woman are married in the Church, they receive the grace needed for a lifelong bond of unity.

Marriage is a Covenant

The Sacrament of Marriage is a covenantal union in the image of the covenants between God and his people with Abraham and later with Moses at Mt. Sinai. This divine covenant can never be broken. In this way, marriage is a union that bonds spouses together during their entire lifetime.

The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life. (CCC 1661)

The love in a married relationship is exemplified in the total gift of one’s self to another. It’s this self-giving and self-sacrificing love that we see in our other model of marriage, the relationship between Christ and the Church.

Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love. (CCC 1662)

The Church takes the lifelong nature of the Sacrament of Marriage seriously. The Church teaches that a break in this covenant teaches goes against the natural law of God:

The remarriage of persons divorced from a living, lawful spouse contravenes the plan and law of God as taught by Christ. They are not separated from the Church, but they cannot receive Eucharistic communion. They will lead Christian lives especially by educating their children in the faith. (CCC 1665)

Marriage Reflects the Holy Trinity

We believe that God exists in eternal communion. Together, Father, Son and Holy Spirit are united in one being with no beginning and no end. Human beings, likewise, were created by God in God’s image for the purpose of communion with another human being.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church states, “The Christian family is a communion of persons, a sign and image of the communion of the Father and the Son in the Holy Spirit” (CCC 2205). The Sacrament of Marriage is “unitive, indissoluble and calls us to be completely open to fertility.” Christian marriage at its finest is a reflection of God’s self-giving love expressed between the love of two people.


It is necessary to contact our parish priest Fr. John Molina or Bernice Walker, Parish Business Administrator for an appointment at least 6 months prior to setting a wedding date. Call the parish office at 808-965-8202 to set up the appointment and obtain the details on Diocesan marriage requirements. The suggested donation is $300.

The Catholic Church does not recognize a marriage ceremony of a Catholic before a civil authority or Protestant minister or without proper dispensation, to be a true marriage.  To be valid, the marriage of a Catholic must take place in the presence of a Catholic bishop, priest or deacon.   A Marriage Validation, sometimes referred to as getting your marriage "blessed" or convalidated, fixes the problem of a Catholic in an invalid marriage. 
Catholics married outside the Catholic Church may not receive Holy Communion. The Validation is a true and complete wedding ceremony — the Sacrament of Matrimony.
To have your marriage Validated, see the priest with whom you feel comfortable.  The process does require appropriate marriage preparation.   We can assist, if someone has a previous marriage to petition for petitioning for a declaration of nullity.
If you are married to a non-Catholic who refuses to participate in a new marriage ceremony in the Catholic Church, please inquire about the possibility of a validation by “radical sanation.”


God created man and woman out of love and commanded them to imitate his love in their relations with each other. Man and woman were created for each other…Woman and man are equal in human dignity, and in marriage both are united in an unbreakable bond. (United States Catholic Catechism for Adults, Ch. 21, p. 279)